When it comes to mainstream music, “artists are often persuaded to pretend to be straight to get the best opportunity,” said OUTMUSIC chief Diedra Meredith.

Under her stage name, Deepa Soul, she herself was told “to essentially stay in the closet” when signing a recording contract.

Chely Wright, a former country music star who’s to be honored at Monday’s awards show at Irving Plaza, announced last year that she was gay. Wright was ostracized; radio stations stop playing her songs, and she was made to feel like an outsider in the industry.

Wright said it was as almost as if she didn’t exist.

Though she wasn’t thrown out of the Academy of Country Music or had any Country Music Television appearances canceled, she said “I haven’t gotten any invites, either.”

Wright said she knew of the possible consequences when she came out but was still confused by the ordeal because she was the same performer who had enjoyed a successful career since 1994.

“It’s not like I was planning to write gayer songs after I came out,” she said.

At one time, Wright was one of country music’s darlings. She was romantically involved with country star Brad Paisley, whom she credits as one of her two main loves before coming out.

While the two haven’t spoken in a while, Wright says Paisley has been supportive and donated to her charity supporting music education in public schools.

Immediately after her announcement, Wright says OUTMUSIC embraced her and made her feel like she was part of a community again. Now she’s touring in support of her 2010 release, Lifted Off the Ground.

The reaction to Wright coming out doesn’t shock Meredith, but she said country music isn’t the only intolerant segment of the music industry.

Country music “will accept an LGBT artist before the rap community,” she said confidently.

“That is one of the most homophobic genres in the industry,” Meredith said of hip-hop. “Gay rappers have more guts than some of them because they are standing up and saying this is truly who I am.”

Wright is to be given the organization’s Vanguard Award, bestowed on an individual who leads the LGBT community. Cyndi Lauper will be honored as the organization’s person of the year. Jonathon D. Lovitz, host of the Logo series “Setup Squad,” is one of the evening’s presenters. He expects to have some fun with the crowd.

“One of the things that has kept the LGBT community strong for so many years is its ability to poke fun of ourselves,” Lovitz said.

The actor feels nothing is off limits, as long as no malice is intended.

Ray Boltz leads nominees with four nods, including album of the year for True. Deepa Soul, Jason Walker and Christine Martucci are scheduled to perform. The show will be broadcast on the Logo Network at a later date.